It was one of those 2 o'clock in the morning nights. Clare Regelbrugge, University of Illinois Urbana-Champaign, Sign in to comment to your favorite stories, participate in your community and interact with your friends. If you think about it, we need the SJs and SPs to get the world going. Surprised? Add Chevy Chase into the mix and you have one of the funniest Christmas movies of all time. Being someone who is rare can make it challenging to connect with people, since most don’t operate or see the world in the same way. One of the reasons INFJ personality type is so difficult to understand is that many of our characteristics seem completely contradictory. The kind where you are tossing and turning and you almost wish those voices in your head could have the decency to take form as monsters or boogie men because at least then you could turn on the lights and they'd disappear. After much thinking and deliberation, I arrived to a possible theory about why INFJ's are so rare in our current society. While there are many things that INFJs can tolerate — generally, they’re more sympathetic than most — even INFJs have their limits. Do you think it’s because of our past experiences, or the fact that we’re so rare? "All My Life" is not your typical romance blockbuster. Why are INFJs so Special? Staying on the surface. It is actually quite eerie how well the description fits me. We process information and think deeply but you can’t see any of those things. INFJs are very intuitive, almost like mind readers, they understand almost too much of the world, both the good and bad. Prev. INFJs are so scatter-minded that they’re often incoherent and illogical in conversations. 29 ‘INFJ Problems’ That Make This Rare Personality Type Truly Special | Thought Catalog Menu They are both soft-spoken and willing to fight for what they believe in. 1. The stars of this movie talk about the reality of cinematic representation and star-crossed relationships. This helps explain my depression, anxiety, and bipolar. INFJs are known to be the rarest personality type, which is exactly what can make them be seen as weird. INFJ? But I won’t talk about them. This personality type loves to focus on the future. Last year I decided to designate one wall in my bedroom for all of my favorite quotes. The question is - why are we (the INFJs) so rare? Find ways to relax and try not to take on too much. The Myers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is an introspective self-report questionnaire designed to indicate psychological preferences in how people perceive the world and make decisions. This film is a must-watch every year as it brings forth the enthusiasm and holiday vibes in the hearts of every family during the holiday season! I wonder why so many INFJs are Type 4s on the enneagram? While they are deciding, make even more art'' saying as well as Buddha's "The trouble is, you think you have time" mantra and even a quote my yoga teachers and I came up with, "The opposite of love is love." You have to hang all the stockings (with care) and wrap all the presents. Here are 12 things most INFJs absolutely hate. They want to see their work make real impacts and transform other people’s lives, which is also the reason why this personality type … :D . They are introverted people who want to be with people — well the right people. INFJs are hard to condense but in short this comment under a Pin explains them well, "As the rarest type in the population, INFJs tend have very contradicting personality traits such as wanting to be noticed but hating attention, or having a logically oriented mindset but disregarding logic in situations where their intuition tells them something different. INFJs are hard to condense but in short this comment under a Pin explains them well, "As the rarest type in the population, INFJs tend have very contradicting personality traits such as wanting to be noticed but hating attention, or having a logically oriented mindset but disregarding logic in situations where their intuition tells them something different. These idealistic people with high moral standards are a rare personality type. Let everyone else decide if it's good or bad, whether they love it or hate it. Reactions: Grac3, Lady Nurture and Misha. So what makes INFJs “weird” and wonderful? Why INFJs Over-Analyze. So I fed my racing thoughts by Pinteresting. Work on your self-esteem and learn to appreciate yourself and your relationships. Songs About Being 17Grey's Anatomy QuotesVine Quotes4 Leaf CloverSelf Respect, 1. At times it is like we are two different people. I've been reading a lot about my personality over the past day and it helps answer the questions I always asked myself. It can be very confusing for the INFJ, as we often don’t quite know what it is we want or need. Highly perceptive of people’s feelings, INFJS are very attentive and empathetic listeners who enjoy helping others realize their potential." Brittany Morgan, National Writer's Society2. They appear self absorbed and think they are special snowflakes. The INFJ is thought to be the rarest Myers-Briggs personality type, making up only 1-3 percent of the population. Why do I love being alone, but fear being lonely? I'm in a constant battle with myself, and trying to explain the thoughts that either bring me trouble, or leave others terribly confused. Save … I know that these tests are not to be taken too seriously, but I still find it interesting. For those of you that don't know, Pinterest acts as a personalized Internet feed; you choose what categories you want to see and by liking or "pinning" content, you allow the site to learn your interests (hence the name Pinterest.) Instead, I will share a couple of positives it can bring, as I explain why INFJs are so intense. ", INFJs are hard to condense but in short this comment under a. " If INFJs are so rare, why are there so many here? Open-minded while seeming standoffish. Kristen Haddox, Penn State University4. —-Leadership. I would love to hear your thoughts why are INFJs drawn to sadness. "Hallelujah! It was the following 'Pins' that made me think that someone was reading my mind, making my thoughts visual and beautiful. While celebrating this magnum opus, I would like to share 25 quotes that mirror our 2020 mental state to the core. Make this holiday even better with these festive hits! These warm shy individuals are dubbed as being socially inept because they are quiet and rarely initiate conversation in social situations. I think EVERYONE thinks they are a special snowflake!! This is how I feel when talking to people I don’t know well — I don’t function very well. So, my theory is that, a lot of people who are actually INFPs and INFJs choose to live as other types. Eventually the feed can become so personalized that it looks like a little part of the internet was created just for you, because it was — through the pinning and viewing and clicking — you did most of the work and helped make your own feed. But this week, I found my Pinterest scroll worth while and eye-opening. INFJs are the most susceptible to mental disorders like depression because they are so deeply emotional — either all in or all out. But then something popped up that caught my eye: And I felt connected to the quote, something worthy enough to debate about going on my quote wall. INFJs are likable though, because they listen and understand and make great, loyal friends — but they also have a universe inside them that the other 99 percent aren't even close to comprehending. Perhaps it’s because they’re quiet and reserved and tend to share their deepest thoughts and feelings only with select people. It's nice to understand yourself, and how your brain is wired. It's great how technology nowadays can make the excluded feel included, and how it can help connect you to other people that are experiencing the same situations you face. Enneagram 4 seems very Fi. The only time I sound coherent is when I prepare in advance. #1: Extremely Private As introverts, INFJs keep their personal thoughts and feelings close to the vest. Scrolling through Pinterest during the small hours of the morning usually leads to cute little dog pictures, gorgeous shoes I pin but can never afford, and DIY crafts that I have no intention of making. It was 2:30 a.m. by now and I was asking my brain to remember this random four letter acronym. It's very hard for me to pinpoint what it is exactly--an INFJs writing style is very distinctly soft, quietly philosophical, very detailed, with a long-train of thought in one subject at a time, and I'm always in awe. Our brains are typically wired to be more practical and Se would have been a much more practical function than Ni for almost all of human history. Things the INFJ Hates 1. Is an Extrovert or an Introvert the best leader? It feels like Christmas snuck up on everyone, especially if you have been using Winter Break to sleep in and not worry about your day to day routine (totally not talking from experience). Jesus is said to be an infj, you got to be kidding how do they know that. Anywho, I opened my Pinterest app and decided to casually scroll through. Holy shi*t! I am an INFJ and I think INFJs aren't rare simply because I've met quite a few "INTPs" who actually appear to be INFJs to me. Memes on the Internet compare the INFJ’s mind to that of a computer that cannot work properly because it has 100 tabs open. Or you can take the official MBTI® here. 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Is it because of our perfectionistic tendencies or idealistic expectations? “INFJ” is an initialism that stands for Introversion (I), Intuition (N), Feeling (F), and Judgment (J), which describes the INFJ’s core characteristics. Hollywood has gifted us with the classic "National Lampoon's Christmas Vacation" film starring Chevy Chase and Beverly D'Angelo 31 years ago, but it is still relevant and a magnificent delight, even in the times of the COVID-19 global pandemic. Björk's quote was easily a Hollywood-worthy quote and I kept on looking under the tags that went with Björk's six words and I saw, "INFJ personality" pop up again and again. I didn't pay much attention to it, until a couple nights ago on Pinterest when I discovered INFJs make up only one percent of the population, being the rarest personality type out of the 16 the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator has. I like to view it as a psychological horoscope, but instead of predicting your future, it helps explain why you act a certain way. And every time I resulted in the INFJ personality — Introversion, intuition, feeling, judging. Not feeling the Holiday spirit in 2020? As Introverts who want to ", We all know the holidays can be a very stressful time for, well, everyone. 3 years ago. They might feel like there is something wrong because they are so different from their peers. Or maybe it’s because they are so rare—personality test research shows they make up less than 1% of the population. Traditions are hard to break, especially when it comes to the holiday season. Yeah there is a few good infjs, so what infjs are not so special if you don’t fall for some of their crazy ideals. These people are usually the outcasts, the quirky ones, the crazy dreamers but also the accomplished doers. INFJs often feel misunderstood. That is not true. I'm an INFJ (Myers-Briggs Type Indicator) and apparently this is the rarest of the sixteen personality types. The students with the highest GPAs and who are most likely to graduate college are those who have the INFJ personality. Why are INFJs so vulnerable when writing? Where have I heard that before? Which Personality Types Earn the Most Money. It's fun and interesting to see what you are categorized as, or don't take it - that's fine too — I don't want to exclude anyone, it's not who I am. The current trend in the literature promotes Introverts as the best. Radhi, SUNY Stony Brook3. Take the test. For the INFJ … Bake all the treats and yumminess for the entire family. You’ll also get a free 20-page INFJ Relationship Guide. I don't know how to describe it, but INFJs have an "open" and vulnerable, quick to self-disclose, soft writer's voice that's like sunshine. That’s why we have a community of INFJs. INFJs seem much more well suited for modern society than ancient ones if only by a little bit. I mean Jane Fonda’s wishy washy beliefs and might I add she was wrong most of the time. I was working as a news anchor for Friday Morning News, my high school's television show, on March 12, 2020. It was the following 'Pins' that made me think that someone was reading my mind, making my thoughts visual and beautiful. This fact didn't fascinate me that much either, it was the quotes on Pinterest written by fellow INFJs that made me feel understood, at home, and it explained everything that I was as a person in a few "Pins.". "I don't know what to say, but it's Christmas, and we're all in misery. INFJs are a rare kind of personality type, which is sad, because they are always looking for ways to help the greater good. If you look at the functions INFJs have extraverted sensing which means they are more likely to work out and be "show offs" than the ISxJ, ESxJ, INxP and ENxP types who all have introverted sensing. As an INFJ myself, it's hard. Where's the Tylenol?". contribute their personal ideas and thought in the workplace environment, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking. I know it doesn't change much, I'm still the same person, but being able to see an outpour of other INFJs try to explain the same life I'm leading makes me feel a little less weird, kinda cool, and a lot understood. Jennifer Kustanovich, SUNY Stony Brook5. A difficulty many INFJs struggle with is balancing their … Take our new personality questionnaire here. Well I think JESUS was all personality types. So, if personality is genetic, traits for INFJs would have been weeded out over time. This might be a long post, due to my long-winded writing style, but if you can stick it out, it may just be a fun theory to discuss! Not sure what your personality type is? A Rare Personality. The first point lies in statistics. This intense behavior can have its drawbacks, quite a few of them. We don’t really talk about what we’re thinking so INTJs come across as aloof and even mean at times. Most people on the Se-Ni axis are high Se users because Se is more practical than Ni, at least in my opinion. The way we're living is not the way we're supposed to live. Christmas just has to look a little different. It makes sense why I chose to become a writer, and how I see the world. We are disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255: "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising" and also in accordance to amazon associates programme operating agreement. Those songs have existed so long, people don't remember a time without them. As soon as I saw Björk's simple but dense quote, "I am half child, half ancient," I felt a little jump in my heart and I instantly thought Maybe I can add this beautiful mixture of words to my wall! To be honest, I was thinking more about what I would make for breakfast in the morning and if my dog was actually comfortable sleeping upside down on my bony knees, than anything my glaring phone had to offer. My mind surprisingly agreed to help me out, and brought me back to high school when my therapist and psychiatrist and school counselor all forced personality tests down my throat until I was blue in the face. They’re also quiet, sensitive people who are full of contradictions and can seem like several different people, even to those who’ve known them for years. More likely though, it’s because they are walking, talking contradictions. It's like American Idol and I'm Simon Cowell. 2020 has been a rollercoaster ride of a year, with each month throwing us all in for a new loop. But people with all personality types can work out and be good looking, so your appearence doesn't necessarily reflect your personality type. I hate when I have so much to say, but I can't put any of it into words. I think the reason why high Ni users are so rare is that most people are on a Si-Ne axis for one. INFJs are a unique gift to the world. Maybe it’s because we are empaths, and we absorb other people’s emotions, so we don’t want to burden them with ours. INFJs are extremely rare, and have a unique combination of traits. The NT's design shit and lead organizations. Although co-stars Jessica Rothe and Harry Shum Jr. acted in hits such as "Happy Death Day" and "Crazy Rich Asians," respectively, the two decided to try an unglamorous take on unconditional love during a time when we needed it most. [INFJ] Jump to Latest Follow 21 - 40 of 50 Posts. Many of an INTJ’s personality traits are inward-focused. Trying to find the perfect gifts for your loved ones, picking out the best tree and trimming it to the nines. From the rock stars of the 70's to the pop stars of today, here are ten modern Christmas songs you need on your playlist. What three unusual characteristics make them stand out? 3 Weird and Wonderful Secrets About the INFJ Personality Type INFJs Foresee Future Implications with Uncanny Accuracy. Why do I feel everyone is worthy and lovable but yet I can claw your eyes out if you do one thing I deem "immoral"? If you go here, there's a chart on page 14 that shows the difference between the "reported type" and the "best-fit type." And simply make sure everyone is having the "hap-hap-happiest Christmas.". When most of us think of Christmas music, we imagine the traditional songs in the public domain. Consider these top five personality traits of INFJs. 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